Helping kids build and strengthen social skills during the summer

July 24, 2026 - 04:49

As the school year winds down, many parents worry about their children losing academic ground. But for some kids, the biggest summer challenge isn't math or reading. It is friendship. Without the daily structure of classrooms, recess, and lunch tables, social skills can get rusty. Parenting expert Bethany Braun-Silva says summer actually offers a unique chance to strengthen these abilities in a lower-pressure environment.

Braun-Silva explains that unstructured play is a powerful teacher. When kids have to negotiate who gets the next turn on the swing or how to build a shared fort, they practice compromise and reading social cues. Parents can help by setting up small, low-stakes playdates. One-on-one time with a single friend is often easier for shy children than a big group. It allows them to practice conversation without feeling overwhelmed.

Another tip is to model social behavior at home. If a child struggles with joining a game, parents can role-play the scenario. Practice saying, "Can I play too?" or "That looks fun." Braun-Silva also suggests limiting screen time during the day. While video chats can help long-distance friends, too much passive entertainment takes away from real-world interaction.

Finally, parents should not force friendships. Summer is a time to explore different interests. A child who loves drawing might connect with others at a library art class. A kid who enjoys building might find friends at a LEGO club. The goal is not to have a packed social calendar, but to give children the tools and opportunities to connect when they are ready. With a little patience and planning, summer can be a season of growth, not just for bodies, but for relationships too.